For the Guys
So you think she might be pregnant?
Here's some quick advice that may benefit you. My name is Bill and my girlfriend and I walked through a difficult pregnancy. I understand how it feels to be concerned about pregnancy and your role. You are not alone. I have been where you are and we are here to help you sort through all your questions.
Stay calm. This isn't happening tomorrow. You have some time so get as much information as posible. She needs your support now more than ever.
Talk about it. Not only with each other, but prepare to talk with parents and others close to the situation. Hiding the news from people who can genuinely help you only increases your stress.
Gather all the facts. Get all the information you can from someone who deals with these situations so you can make the best decision for both of you.
Express yourself honestly. It's normal to have feelings of anger, frustration and fear. But make sure she knows she is not alone
Get Involved. Here at Care Net PRC we have educational resources to help you make the best decision for you, her, and your baby.
- Doctor Dad- Information to help you prepare and take care of a newborn through the toddler years.
- 24/7 Dad- Geared for older children this information helps you develop the skills needed to deal with your own emotions, your physical and mental health, struggles with fathering, differences in parenting, and understanding other relationship issues.
Don't bail. The more you run from this, the harder it becomes to think and act clearly.
Don't pressure her. Applying pressure will only push her away. You will do well to work together as a team.
Don't forget. You have a very active role in this situation. Listen to input as well as give your thoughts.